Discover the 90/10 Secret:It will change your life

The 90/10 secret is incredible! Very few know and
apply this secret. The result? Millions of people are
suffering undeserved stress, trials, problems, and
heartache. They never seem to be a success in life.

Bad days follow bad days. Terrible things seem to be
constantly happening. There is constant stress, lack
of joy, and broken relationships. Worry consumes time,
anger breaks friendships, and life seems dreary and is
not enjoyed to the fullest.. Friends are lost. Life is
a bore and often seems cruel. Does this describe you?

If so, do not be discouraged. You can be different!
Understand and apply the 90/10 secret. It will change
your life!

What is this secret?
10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of
life is decided by how you react.What does this mean?
We really have no control over 10% of what happens to
us. We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The
plane may be late arriving, which throws our whole
schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic. We
have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is
different. You determine the other 90%! How? By your
reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can
control your reaction. Don't let people fool you, YOU
can control how you react!

Let's use an example. You're eating breakfast with
your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee
into your business shirt. You have no control over
what just happened. What happens next will be
determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly
scold your daughter for knocking the coffee cup over.
She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn
to your spouse and criticize them for placing the cup
too close to the edge of the table.

A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and
change your shirt. Back downstairs you find your
daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast
and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your
spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to
the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you
are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed
limit.


After a 15 minute delay and throwing $60 (traffic
fine) way, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs to
the building without saying good-bye. After arriving
at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot
your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it
continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look
forward to going home. When you arrive home you find a
small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and
daughter. Why? Because of how you reacted in the
morning.


Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the Policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?

The answer is D. You had no control over what happened
with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is
what caused your bad day. Here is what could have and
should have happened. Coffee splashes over you. Your
daughter is about to cry. You gently say "It's OK
honey, you just need to be more careful next time".
Grabbing a
towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt
and your briefcase, you come back down in time look
through the window and see your child getting on the
bus. She turns and waves. You and your spouse kiss
before you both go to work. You arrive 5 minutes early
and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on
how good a day you are having.


Notice the difference? Two different scenarios. Both
started the same. Both ended different. Why? Because
of how you REACTED. You really do not have any control
over 10% of what happens. The other 90% is determined
by your reaction.


Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 secret. If
someone says something negative about you, do not be a
sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass.
You do not
have to let the negative comment affect you! React
properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong
reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired,
getting stressed out, etc.


How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic?
Do you lose your temper? Pound the steering wheel? (A
friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off!) Do
you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you
try and bump them?


WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why
let the blue car ruin your drive. Remember the 90-10
principle, and do not worry about it!

You are told you lost your job. Why lose sleep or get
irritated? It will work out. Use your "worrying"
energy and time into finding another job.

The plane is late. It is going to mangle your schedule
for the day. Why take out your frustration on control
over what is going on. Use your time to study, get to
know the other passenger, etc. Why get stressed out?
It will just make things worse. You now know the 90-10
secret. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results

Happiness is a conscious choice, not fate.
Unfortunately most people chooseto be unhappy, and cause people around them to be unhappy with them.